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Thursday, April 27, 2017

Where do people get their dating advice from?

Let’s face it – dating can be a real struggle. Not only are you required to learn about the rules, do’s, don’ts, and boundaries, but even when you apply all of your knowledge to your dating life, there’s still nothing that can guarantee your success. No matter how good looking, open minded, outgoing, patient or persistent you are, you are no less vulnerable to rejection than anyone else. Whether you’re in a “man seeking woman” scenario or you’re just looking for someone to hook up with, there’s a good chance that you won’t achieve success right off the bat.

So, what do you do when your dating game hits a wall of disappointment, frustration and hopelessness? You turn to others for advice, naturally.


While there are a lot of people who love dishing out dating advice, there are also a lot of those who ask for it, but strangely enough, there aren’t many people how actually take dating advice. To be more precise, the recent Match.com’s seventh annual Singles in America survey tells us that 65% of single folk don’t really find dating advice to be useful at all.

As most of us know, there are many ways one can find dating advice. Some of us ask the people that surround us, while others would rather go online and read up on the popular tips and statistics. In that name, let’s check out where people usually get their dating advice from.

Male Friends

Although men are generally considered to be less romantic than women, there’s a good chunk of people that will look for dating advice from their buddy over any other person they know. As it turns out, nearly half of the single men Match interviewed ask their boys for tips, while about 35% women claim that they have a guy friend they can turn to for some dating know-how.

Female Friends

We’ve all watched “Sex and the City” and we know how asking for dating advice works when it comes to women. If you need more detailed info, Match points out that about two thirds of girls go to their girlfriends for advice, while that number floats around 34% when it comes to guys asking their female friends for dating tips.

Siblings

Not all of us like sharing details from their love life with our families, but those who do, most often turn to their siblings. Women are much more likely to do this (about 31% of them, to be exact), while men are a little less enthusiastic about talking to their bro or sis about their dating endeavors).

Parents

If we’re being honest, there isn’t a better example of someone who’s been successful at dating than your parents. First off, their dating efforts resulted in you (obviously) and secondly, they usually know how to transfer their knowledge in a way you’ll understand. As Match points out, around 27% of women see their parents as the go-to people when it comes to dating advice.

The Internet

Although it’s usually better when someone gives you dating tips in person, there’s a good portion of us that are most likely to go online in our search for dating tips. There are many ways you can find revelations and enlightenment about dating on the internet – from forums to where strangers share their experiences and opinions to legitimate websites which feature experts and psychologists and their views on dating.

All in all, the internet is a vast pool of knowledge, so there’s really no reason not to use to step our dating game up, is there?

Co-Workers

It’s not the first group of people you would think of when someone mentions dating advice, but if you’re working a 9-to5 job, you know very well that you’re likely to ask someone for dating tips if you’re spending the majority of your day with them.

In their survey, Match found that 30% of women and 20% go to their colleagues for advice. Sharing a workplace with someone usually means you’re also sharing details from your life with them, which makes asking them for dating tips that much more logical.

Exes

Now, here’s something you probably weren’t expecting. “Who in their right mind would ask their ex for dating advice?” Well, according to Match, around 13% of men claim that some of the best dating advice they ever got was from their ex.

If you think about it, this actually makes sense – if you’ve parted way with someone without much fuss, there’s a good chance that they already know your likes, dislikes, fears and expectations when it comes to dating. This also means that your ex is a person who knows exactly what you need and what others may or may not see in you, making them one of the best sources of dating tips.