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Thursday, April 27, 2017

Where do people get their dating advice from?

Let’s face it – dating can be a real struggle. Not only are you required to learn about the rules, do’s, don’ts, and boundaries, but even when you apply all of your knowledge to your dating life, there’s still nothing that can guarantee your success. No matter how good looking, open minded, outgoing, patient or persistent you are, you are no less vulnerable to rejection than anyone else. Whether you’re in a “man seeking woman” scenario or you’re just looking for someone to hook up with, there’s a good chance that you won’t achieve success right off the bat.

So, what do you do when your dating game hits a wall of disappointment, frustration and hopelessness? You turn to others for advice, naturally.


While there are a lot of people who love dishing out dating advice, there are also a lot of those who ask for it, but strangely enough, there aren’t many people how actually take dating advice. To be more precise, the recent Match.com’s seventh annual Singles in America survey tells us that 65% of single folk don’t really find dating advice to be useful at all.

As most of us know, there are many ways one can find dating advice. Some of us ask the people that surround us, while others would rather go online and read up on the popular tips and statistics. In that name, let’s check out where people usually get their dating advice from.

Male Friends

Although men are generally considered to be less romantic than women, there’s a good chunk of people that will look for dating advice from their buddy over any other person they know. As it turns out, nearly half of the single men Match interviewed ask their boys for tips, while about 35% women claim that they have a guy friend they can turn to for some dating know-how.

Female Friends

We’ve all watched “Sex and the City” and we know how asking for dating advice works when it comes to women. If you need more detailed info, Match points out that about two thirds of girls go to their girlfriends for advice, while that number floats around 34% when it comes to guys asking their female friends for dating tips.

Siblings

Not all of us like sharing details from their love life with our families, but those who do, most often turn to their siblings. Women are much more likely to do this (about 31% of them, to be exact), while men are a little less enthusiastic about talking to their bro or sis about their dating endeavors).

Parents

If we’re being honest, there isn’t a better example of someone who’s been successful at dating than your parents. First off, their dating efforts resulted in you (obviously) and secondly, they usually know how to transfer their knowledge in a way you’ll understand. As Match points out, around 27% of women see their parents as the go-to people when it comes to dating advice.

The Internet

Although it’s usually better when someone gives you dating tips in person, there’s a good portion of us that are most likely to go online in our search for dating tips. There are many ways you can find revelations and enlightenment about dating on the internet – from forums to where strangers share their experiences and opinions to legitimate websites which feature experts and psychologists and their views on dating.

All in all, the internet is a vast pool of knowledge, so there’s really no reason not to use to step our dating game up, is there?

Co-Workers

It’s not the first group of people you would think of when someone mentions dating advice, but if you’re working a 9-to5 job, you know very well that you’re likely to ask someone for dating tips if you’re spending the majority of your day with them.

In their survey, Match found that 30% of women and 20% go to their colleagues for advice. Sharing a workplace with someone usually means you’re also sharing details from your life with them, which makes asking them for dating tips that much more logical.

Exes

Now, here’s something you probably weren’t expecting. “Who in their right mind would ask their ex for dating advice?” Well, according to Match, around 13% of men claim that some of the best dating advice they ever got was from their ex.

If you think about it, this actually makes sense – if you’ve parted way with someone without much fuss, there’s a good chance that they already know your likes, dislikes, fears and expectations when it comes to dating. This also means that your ex is a person who knows exactly what you need and what others may or may not see in you, making them one of the best sources of dating tips.

Monday, April 24, 2017

3 Ways to Avoid Purchasing Mistakes as an Independent Woman

Although a lot of progress has been made for women’s rights in recent generations, there is still a long way to go in some regards. For example, some close-minded and non-progressive merchants may still believe if you’re a woman making purchase decisions on your own without help from a male partner, you’re gullible. Keep reading to learn how to assert yourself as an educated, confident female consumer.


Avoid Impulse Buys

Both physical and online stores use various techniques to convince you there are just some things you can’t live without, even if you didn’t intend to buy them when you came into the store. During your last visit to the supermarket, you probably saw how the checkouts were stocked with gum, candy, batteries and other small, crucial items. The goal is for you to decide you may as well pick those things up now because you’ll eventually need them someday.

While shopping online, you may also notice that principle at work when stores suggest additional things to purchase based on whatever’s already in your virtual shopping cart. There are advanced algorithms that try to guess which items will most appeal to you based on past purchasing habits, too. Sometimes, you can even get a discounted rate for purchasing two similar items together.

There are various strategies you can use to keep impulse buys from eroding your willpower. For example, stick to your shopping list and don’t go to other unnecessary departments within the store, shop with cash so you won’t risk spending more than expected and just charging the amount to your credit card, and put a practice in place where you wait for a specified time before acting on a decision to buy an unplanned item.


Get Advice From Trustworthy Friends

Research shows when people feel supported in their purchasing decisions, they’ll stay calmer while deciding what to buy, especially if picking between several choices. That’s why it’s a good idea to rely on friends you trust when trying to make major buying decisions.

You can request their help in several ways. For example, you might be in the market for a new smartphone and know at least one of your close friends owns a model that’s one of your top choices. You could ask that person for the pros and cons of the particular gadget. You might also get a friend to go with you to the shop so you don’t feel under as much pressure, or see if the person will help you figure out your most-needed features.


Depend on Service Providers From the Community

If you have the choice between buying coverage from Nashville local insurance agents and doing business with a company that’s thousands of miles away from your home state of Tennessee, for example, pick the former option. Through face-to-face interactions with a service provider that lives in works in your community, you’ll have good opportunities to demonstrate you’ve done your research and know what you want to buy.

It’s not always possible to prevent purchasing mistakes. However, the tips you’ve just read should help you have fewer regrets, especially if you practice them regularly.

Friday, April 7, 2017

The Worst Dressed Celebrities at the Oscars

We all know what the Academy Awards are about: only the best in film. Directors, actors, composers, and other people involved in the filmmaking process all compete for the prestigious Oscar award, which signifies that they were the very best in a given category for that year. In all honesty, the hype only lasts as long as you can find their story on Snapchat discover, but that’s beside the point.

While there are certain criteria one must fulfill in order to enter the competition for an Academy Award, there’s no real restriction as to what famous people can wear when they show up for this event. In that name, here are the worst dressed celebrities at the 2017 Oscars.

Leslie Mann 2017 Oscars

1. Leslie Mann 

The American-born actress Leslie Mann is best known for her hilarious comedic roles in movies such as “The Cable Guy,” “Knocked Up,” “This Is 40,” and “The Change Up,” but she won’t be known for how good her outfit was at this year’s Academy Awards.

Leslie, in all her usual cheer, showed up alongside her husband Judd Apatow. And while her significant other had a pretty simple yet effective outfit, Mann decided to go for something that looks less like a gown and more like a bunch of yellow garbage bags slapped together onto a sleeveless jumpsuit. It sounds crazy, we know, but this is literally what Leslie Mann’s dress looked like.

Priyanka Chopra 2017 Oscars

2. Priyanka Chopra

Once Miss World, then an actress and one of the 100 most influential people in the world, now a poorly dressed celebrity at the 2017 Oscars – we’re talking about Priyanka Chopra, of course, and her completely out-of-place outfit.

We have to be fair though – Priyanka’s body looks mighty fine for someone who’s 34-years-old. She’s beautiful, she obviously works out, and once you consider that she’s an Indian aeronautical engineer who went from Bollywood to Hollywood in a matter of years, there’s really not much we can say that would add to her impressive portfolio. Nonetheless, her dress is not something she wants to be remembered by.

Chopra arrived at the Academy Awards dateless (probably due to her awful dress), wearing a piece that strongly resembles a large chunk of Styrofoam that somehow keeps her cleavage, butt and legs covered. Just let that image sink in.

Dakota Johnson 2017 Oscars

3. Dakota Johnson

If someone was to ask you which celebrity is most likely to show up at the Oscars looking like a matron, you probably wouldn’t have thought of Dakota Johnson. After all, isn’t she the brave and sexually curious Anastasia Steele in “Fifty Shades of Grey”? According to her dress, she’s more of a 17th century prude than anything.

Long sleeves, whitish gold, Gucci – all of these should imply that a dress looks pretty good, however, Johnson is here to prove that wrong. The high neckline and the confusing details of her gown made her look so uptight and serious that you wouldn’t believe she was 27 if it wasn’t written on her IMDb page.

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

The Essential 20 Something Guide to City Life

City life is a one-of-a-kind experience that’s for sure. It’s hectic, it’s crowded and it’s full on but we wouldn’t change it for the world. If you’ve recently embraced city living and want some tips for getting into the swing of things, we’ve sorted you out with a guide to the latest gadgets to get you by.



Here’s a checklist of the must-have essential technology and apps for living modern life in the big city:

Citymapper

Not only is this app a lifesaver when it comes to figuring out the quickest way home/to the bar/to the party, it’s also a major timesaver. No more staring confusedly at the tube map or trying to figure out if that so called ‘shortcut’ is worth taking, before discovering you’ve just walked in a massive circle. Citymapper is designed with commuters in mind, providing real time routes and directions that people actually use when getting around the city. We’d be lost without it!

Tech21 Phone Cases

As much as we love living in the city, the weather can sometimes (a lot of the time) rain on your parade a little bit. If you do happen to get caught out in the rain, make sure you’ve got a tech21 case protecting your phone. Their Evo Xplorer case is completely waterproof for up to an hour in depths of 9.9ft, combine this their innovative FlexShock™ material (able to withstand drops of up at 6.6ft) and your phone will be safe from those heart-breaking accidental drops! Protect your lifeline and check out tech21’s waterproof cases.

Uber

This popular app will become your best friend at the end of a night out; simply let your phone’s GPS pick up your location and request a taxi! Watch the screen as your ride works it’s way along the streets towards you – letting you know what time it will arrive. No cash on you? No problem! The app syncs with your card so the payment is taken care of seamlessly. Visit their website to find out more.

Digital Dating

Something we would definitely swipe right for is the introduction of dating apps into our lives. City life doesn’t leave as much time as you’d think when looking for love – luckily, we can now have an abundance of potential interests in the palm of our hands. Be sure to check out Happn, as this app uses your GPS to let you discover the likeminded people you’ve crossed paths with as you go about your daily life.

Urban Ears Headphones




Music makes the world go round, so make sure you’ve got a good pair of headphones to make those subway journeys go by that little bit quicker. Mixing quality and style, Scandinavian company Urbanears have an amazing selection of over-ear and in-ear headphones in a wide range of colors to suit anyone’s tastes. Their headphones are reasonably priced too, starting from £25 for the Bagis earbuds so they won’t break the bank.
Mint
Unfortunately, it’s sad but true that living the city lifestyle doesn’t come cheap. It’s easy to lose track of where your hard earned cash is going each month. Keep on top of your money with help from Mint, an easy to use finance app that lets you keep track of your budget, bills and spending. It can even help you to save too! You’ll never get ‘the fear’ when opening up your bank balance again (hopefully).
Seamless
When you want something delicious to eat, but leaving the house just feels like a bit too much effort, take advantage of Seamless. This online delivery service has all the menus from your favorite local restaurants, just pick your meal, enter your zip code and you’ll get an estimated delivery time – it won’t be long before your tucking into your favorite food in the comfort of your own home.
Be sure to get your hands on these must-have bits of tech and living in the city will become a breeze in no time!

Monday, April 11, 2016

5 Things We Can Learn from Soap Operas

Some years ago, daytime serialized drama on radio and television became popular fare for stay-at-home mothers and wives. Manufacturers of soaps and other household items rushed to buy time as commercial sponsors of the programs. Due to the sentimental nature of mostly domestic storylines, the reference to “soap opera” evolved from a passing nickname to a real form of creative writing.

There is learning everywhere and in everything. Seek it out. Blind faith cannot be a reliable guiding light.



Here are 5 things we can learn from soap operas

1. Relationships are the backbone of our lives. They are also the backbone of written works. The advice suggested in any work of art may be carved in stone—but not so in real life. Remember, art imitates life – then imitated life reflects in art.

Your own relationships are special unto themselves and as flexible as you are. 

2. Soap operas are immersed in emotional turmoil, similes of action, big resolutions designed to disintegrate, and always, always have designated storyline settings. Learn that literary liberties are for the purpose of entertainment—not for application in your own relationships.

Leave the drama to the soaps.

3. Soap opera relationships, the characters’ machinations of one another are reminiscent to real life as known by the creator of the storyline. That’s only one point of view. According to the rules of soap opera writing, dramatic storylines cannot be altered in midstream to change directions that were established in the master storyline – also known as the story bible.

In real life you are not compelled by a predesigned outline and you can and should serve yourself in your relationships.

4. Soap opera is a therapeutic school of life. It tugs at the heart. It is good. See it as therapy disguised as escapism. We don’t need to take it to heart.

You don’t escape from your relationships, but through therapy or self-help you can resolve the issues that do not serve you or the relationships. 

5. Relationships are all we have in life. Don’t worry about showing emotions. It can only help. Not showing them can hurt. Watching a soap opera character making mistakes, being betrayed, being too trusting, should not be our own learning experience only our entertainment. We must be mindful of what we absorb.

Be honest with yourself about your feelings and relationships.


Katherine MK Mitchell had three screenplays optioned for film and once wrote a soap opera bible for Columbia TV. Mitchell, a former Hollywood member of the Writers Guild of America, believes there's much we can learn from the now-fading phenomenon of daily soaps.

Monday, February 29, 2016

Finnair and Helsinki Airport Present The Ultimate Runway Fashion Show

Finnair and Helsinki Airport announced today that Runway 2 of Helsinki Airport will transform into the ultimate fashion catwalk where seven top designers from China, Korea, Japan, the UK, Sweden, Denmark and Finland will present their collections. For decades the fashion industry has been associated with the glamorous world of travel and on May 24, 2016 the fashion world will descend on Helsinki Airport to celebrate this Match Made in HEL in style.

"The combined glamour of the fashion and travel industry share a long history. Air travel has long played a key role in setting the pace of fashion trends across the world," says Johanna Jäkälä, Vice President, Brand, Marketing and Loyalty at Finnair. "Fashion connects and inspires people, and we see this on a daily basis as we connect Europe and Asia with our flights. With this fashion show, we want to celebrate the connections between Europe and Asia, and showcase the work of some of the hottest designers from these two continents."

"Helsinki Airport is a key hub for Asia-Europe travel, and every day thousands of people transfer through the airport on their journey between these destinations. The airport, located along the shortest route between Asia and Europe, is a constant inspiration for us, and on May 24th fashion designers from both the West and East will meet here for this special runway show ", says Katja Siberg, Vice President, Marketing and Business Development at Finavia, the Finnish airport operator.

The designers displaying their latest creations along the runway have been handpicked to represent some of the most interesting and inspiring trends emerging from the Asian and European fashion industries. The designers will be announced in March-April, and will be presented on the Match made in HEL campaign site at www.matchmadeinhel.com.


"Helsinki Airport presents a fascinating backdrop for the designers to showcase their work", says Tuomas Laitinen, Fashion Director of SSAW Magazine, who will be curating the fashion show. "I am excited to be a part of bringing some of the hottest names in fashion to Helsinki in May."

Finnair and Helsinki Airport together offer the smoothest connections between Europe and Asia. Finnair flies to 17 Asian destinations and over 70 European destinations via Helsinki. Helsinki Airport has grown into a major transfer hub for Asia-Europe travel, the airport is designed for smooth and fast transfers. As Finnair expands its Asian traffic in turn Helsinki Airport will expand to support growing passenger flows. In summer 2016, Finnair will offer 77 weekly flights to Asia from Helsinki Airport.

The Match Made in HEL campaign is a joint campaign by Finnair and Helsinki Airport, and targeted at raising awareness of Finnair and Helsinki Airport as the best partners for smooth and fast air connections between Asia and Europe.

Sunday, June 7, 2015

Excitement Should Be a Priority in Relationships

Life can be hectic and busy, which leaves little time to keep up relationships. Dating also takes a fair amount of time and commitment. The fact is getting to know someone and developing a bond can be an overwhelming experience. Careers and other obligations tend to put a hold on the available amount of time and money available for finding a new partner. While affair dating websites can be the answer can the answer for some folks looking to create a little excitement in their lives, finding time for yourself can still prove to be a challenge. Making relationships a priority, trying new things, and being more adventurous can be the keys to a rewarding dating experience.



Focusing Priorities

When the bells of life ring constantly for other people, it is easy to get wrapped up in the troubles and issues surrounding the lives of others. It could be a stale and lackluster relationship, it could be family and friends, and it could be any number of things that are chewing away at the available minutes to find someone new. Refocusing priorities is often necessary to finding happiness and enjoyment. Everyone deserves a chance to be happy, whether by one-night-stands to recharge the batteries or to discover a discreet lover. Without making an effort, everyone stays stuck in the same process.

Trying New Things

Anyone that has been trying to meet someone new for an extended period of time and is still coming up empty needs to face the reality that it just is not working. It has little to do the person, it has more to do with the process. Trying new things, like websites that keep things discreet, might just be the answer that everyone is looking for. When stuck in stagnant relationship it is tough to remember how to change things up, but being open to experiences that can help find a special pal with discreet rewards just might be the ideal way to get that flame burning again.

Being Adventurous

Being open to excitement is an important element in the relationship building experience. Whether it is spending a few minutes flirting with a stranger or embarking on a potentially fulfilling journey, keeping doors closed is a sure way to be certain nothing new happens. Opening up to the potential for some excitement is what it is all about. Using websites that specialize in finding new and interesting people close by and people you want to meet help put a little spice into a great evening. There is nothing wrong with a little escape from the status quo, and many people can benefit from a little extra adventure, because it makes them feel alive again.

In the end, changing up priorities and putting yourself first, trying new things instead of the same old places, and being open to the potential adventures life has to offer, are all elements of relationship building and dating that can become rewarding and life changing events. Everyone works hard, but not everyone plays hard. Getting out of stale relationships or using discretion to jump start change can be the perfect way to live a fuller and better life. Everyone deserves a chance to put themselves first and experience some excitement. Checking out what the world has to offer and being open to those experiences is what gets the ball rolling.