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Sunday, December 14, 2014

Great Tips for Getting back into the dating scene

Getting older doesn't mean that our need for company goes away. In fact, many people over 60 find themselves looking for a new partner, whether that’s due to separation, bereavement, or simply because they've been single for a long time and have decided that now is the time to find someone new.

Getting back into dating can be a daunting thing, whatever your age. But for more mature daters, the thought of looking for someone new can be particularly overwhelming, especially in an age where dating is dominated by online dating sites. New dating technology isn't just aimed at young people, however - if you are looking for new love, friendship, or companionship, there are plenty of sites out there that are designed especially for people like you.

Here’s our top tips for the over 60’s who are getting back into the world of dating!

Don’t be scared of online dating – Times have changed. Much of the stigma that was once associated with online dating is long gone and there are now plenty of ways to meet people online via dating websites. There are a whole host of sites out there, many of them dedicated to helping find people with similar interests and intentions.

Whilst these sites can seem daunting, many sites are designed solely for older daters, can take a lot of the stress and fear out of online dating. These sites are designed to be fun and enjoyable, allowing you to find people with similar interests to you and exchange messages with them so you can get to know them better before deciding if you’d like to take the next step and meet them.

Your Profile – When you join an online dating site, such as, the first thing you’ll need to do is set up a profile. This will allow you to tell other users (and potential dates!) about yourself and about what you’re looking for. Here are some things to think about when creating your profile:

-          When writing your profile, be positive and remember you’re trying to sell yourself. Think about your strengths and interests and emphasize them.

-          Don’t make your profile too long – there’ll be plenty of time to reveal more about you once you get chatting to someone. Make it short, concise, amusing, and readable.

-          Be honest. Be clear about what you’re looking for from the site.

-         Upload a good photo. This can be scary but you are a lot more likely to receive positive responses if your potential dates can see what you look like. Also, make sure your picture is up to date, whilst it might be tempting to use one from 20 years ago, this might make things awkward when you eventually decide to meet up with someone in real life!

Make time for dating – No matter how busy you are, make sure you find time to go online regularly and respond to your messages (no one likes to be kept waiting!) Be polite and interesting in your responses and make sure you seem interested in them – ask lots of questions rather than talking about yourself!

Stay Safe – Whatever your age, it’s important to stay safe and secure when online dating.
-          Never give out personal details until you feel you can trust someone. Beware of people who ask very personal questions very quickly.

-          If you’re meeting someone for the first time, always meet them in a busy, public place such as a restaurant, cafe or gallery.

-          Always make sure someone knows where you’re going and when you should be back.

-          As much as you get on with someone, never accept a lift from them, go home with them, or take them to your home until you feel sure about them and trust them completely.