Secret Southern Couture: How to Get Out Of a Friend Zone?   

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

How to Get Out Of a Friend Zone?

After months of searching for a compatible match, you’ve finally found a partner and can’t wait to take things to the next level. However, like most people, you’ve been out of the game for some time and didn't make your move right away, so now you've found yourself in the friend zone and can't seem to get out of it. Fear not, for we are here to guide you though this unpleasant situation and make sure you are victorious in the end.

But before we get into details, we’d like to take this opportunity and say that if you are looking to meet people online, you should know that it is much tougher than it looks, and you should be proud of yourself for having found a nice partner. Dating doesn’t necessarily get easier as time goes on, and some people don’t understand the challenges that certain individuals face in this department.

Without further ado, let’s take a look at the top 4 tips and tricks to get out of that friend zone, and help you start enjoying your relationship to the fullest.

Tip #1: Timing Is Everything

In dating like in everything else in life, timing is absolutely everything. If you want to comfortably get out of the friend zone, assess the situation well before making a direct move. Make sure your new friend is not under a lot of stress or pressure at that time, and don’t spill your guts just out of the blue.

Your best bet is to wait until an opportune moment and talk to your friend about your feelings when you’re getting along great and your ’friendship’ is smooth sailing. But before you do that it wouldn’t hurt to assess your own desires and figure out what it is you actually want from that person. Your attraction may be more physical than anything else, it may be a desire for companionship or it may even be true love. Make sure you know exactly what your expectations are before you proceed.

Tip #2: Spend As Much Time With Your Friend As Possible

Getting out of a friend zone often involves making your friend see you in a different light. You can accomplish this by spending more time alone together when you’ll be able to show more of an interest in them, and when your true feelings will have a chance to shine through. Offer to do things you both enjoy more often, and if this goes well invite your friend to do things you know for sure they will enjoy. This will be one of the clearest signs of your intentions.

Attend a concert together, go for a stroll at your local park or have dinner at their favorite restaurant. When it comes to spending more one-on-one time together, keep it simple and stick to what you're comfortable with. If your friend is into scuba diving and you'd rather stay dry suggest another activity that is not far out of your comfort zone.

Tip #3: Give It Time

Be realistic about what you can accomplish over a certain period of time. If you’ve been friends for a while don’t expect that friendship to turn into a relationship overnight. Pace yourself and be patient because you want to give your interest some time to adjust to the new situation. You don’t want to suffocate your friend with your feelings, and you want to give them time to reflect on what is happening.

Pushing too hard all of a sudden might turn them off and scare them away, so gradually start to be more playful, and slowly start to show your affection. Find a way to flirt that isn't awkward and pay attention to how your friend is responding.

Tip #4: Lightly Start Touching Your Friend

Introduce touches into your relationship with your interest if you want to build intimacy. Make sure you’re always polite and don’t do anything inappropriate. You can casually touch their arm when telling a funny story or walk by them close enough as to lightly touch their body without pulling away. This can be a great test to see how your interest is accepting your advances. You can also start to compliment your friend a little more or tease them, but be careful not to mention their weight or age because nothing good can come of that.

Moderation will be your best ally and so will your intuition. Pay close attention to how your friend reacts to what you've been doing, and see if they have changed their behavior towards you. If they flirt back, touch you in passing by accident and accept your invitation to do things together you're on the right track. It's unlikely they'll make the first move, but might encourage you to ask them out on a real date.